To Celebrate or Not

Do you ever feel like this?

I do.

I know you are wondering why & lucky you, I'm gonna tell you.

A little back story first.

My sister-in-law (SIL) is going to be having a baby in March & I thought it would be nice to throw her a "sprinkle" shower.  Since this is not their first child (my niece will be 10 this summer) & they know they are having a boy this time.  I first contacted her cousin (& another close friend of hers) to see if they would be interested in helping me throw such an event.  I also talked to the mother-in-law as well & she thought it was a nice thought & that it would be ok for us to do such a thing.  I asked her cousin to talk to her mom to find out her thoughts & we would go from there.

Now on to my issue.

So I get this text yesterday from her cousin & it basically says that SILs mom doesn't think it's necessary for us to throw her a shower.  Her reasons: she has stuff from my niece & someone at work gave her like 3 totes of clothes.  

I have 2 problems with this.  

1.  This baby is a BOY not a girl

2. Stuff expires/changes in 10 years (yes I know, really?!)

It's not like I was going to throw her a full blown shower & ask people to buy her the big expensive stuff or have her register or anything.  It was just supposed to be a nice way to celebrate the birth of the new baby.  The invitations would clearly state that this was a sprinkle.

SILs mom did say however IF we wanted to do something, a diaper party would be OK.  My issue with that: brother-in-law (BIL) is on the local fire department & I was told they are going to be doing that for them.  Now I'm not saying that they would get too many diapers (Lord knows you can never have too many of them), but it defeats the purpose of a nice little sprinkle.

I think I'm going to do it my way & if her family doesn't want to participate then fine.  They won't be invited.  AND when she asks where her family is, I'll tell her, "Well 'SIL', your MOM didn't think this was necessary".  Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

So WWYD?